Support for Conscious Loving and Living

Love is the best thing we do. Learn to do it better.

Individual Therapy

Single and looking to attract that special someone? Recovering from a break up? Wanting to deepen a relationship you already have? I can help you invite more connection and aliveness into your life.

Couples Therapy

Do you feel like things could be better? If so, you’re probably right! Whether your relationship needs fine-tuning or a complete overhaul, I can help you and your partner reclaim the intimacy you both deserve. 

Men's Groups

Ever felt confused about what it means to be a man? Join a community of men committed to redefining masculinity for themselves and their loved ones. We meet weekly with a focus on personal growth and relationships.

Hello! I’m Hayden

Licensed Professional Counselor Intern Supervised by Dena Roberts, LPC-S

 Have you ever felt that love is just too darn hard? I’ve certainly been there, and it’s no fun. In fact, it’s downright miserable!

 Most of us simply don’t learn how to have great relationships. On the contrary, a lot of what we are taught sets us up for pain and frustration. As if that weren’t enough, we often internalize our “failures.” Lacking tools to tend to the heart of our relationships, we don’t just feel unloved, we feel unloveable. This, I believe, is one of the great tragedies of our time.

 After twelve years of studying relationships, I am more convinced than ever that it doesn’t have to be this way. You absolutely CAN get the love you want , and it may be easier than you think. There are a thousand ways to shut love out, but only a few secrets to letting more love in. All you have to do is learn them and how to use them properly.

If you’re ready to stop the pattern of tension and heartbreak, I am here to help. Together, we will uncover the hidden reasons you’re lacking closeness in your life, and unlock your innate capacity for joy and love. I know you have it in you. I’m ready when you are!

My Specialties

Love, Trauma, and Relationships

The absence of love lies at the heart of trauma. Understanding this simple truth has profound implications for healing. All traumas, big and small, impact intimacy, but our pasts don’t have to limit us forever. Discover how to move beyond previous hurts to create a new vision of relationships.

Couples Grief Support

When we love together, losing together is inevitable. Sometimes the loss is so great that partners simply cannot support one another alone. I help couples hold fast in the aftermath of parental or child loss, miscarriage, infertility, military deployment, and more.

Sexuality Counseling

Most of us learned the “biomechanics” of sex in health class, but rarely were we invited to view ourselves as sexual beings. This disconnection detracts from our relationships, both with our partners and ourselves. I help individuals and couples reintegrate open-heartedness with a vital sex life.

Getting Started is Easy

Free 20 Minute Chat

Want to see if we’re a good fit? I offer free phone  or online chat consults to answer all your burning questions.

Book Appointment

Ready to meet? Use my online scheduler to quickly and easily find a time that works for us both.

1st Session!

Here’s where to go, what to bring (hint: just your beautiful Self!), and what to expect during our first meeting.

My Approach

 I view the work of therapy as equal parts recovery and discovery. I believe that, no matter how withdrawn or isolated we might become, the spontaneous movement in all of us remains one towards connection and growth. As a result, I rely heavily on my clients’ hard-earned wisdom to guide our process.

At the same time, I also recognize the need we have to move beyond our current capacities, to expand our behavioral repertoires, and to “do” relationships differently. In support of this, I carefully balance nurture, guidance, and loving confrontation with a unique sense of humor and a deep appreciation for our shared humanness.

Although I cherish the therapeutic relationship, my greatest joy lies in empowering my clients to create moments of healing with important others in their everyday lives. Our sessions lay the groundwork, but the true transformation occurs when we are able to co-create different experiences with the ones we love.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why therapy?

Because it works!

The effectiveness of therapy has been scientifically proven. When you make the commitment to attending sessions on a regular basis, you can start feeling and doing better than you would on your own.

Of course, no therapy is right for everyone. And more importantly no therapist is a fit for everyone. In fact, some studies indicate that the therapeutic relationship is responsible for close to 70% of the observed benefits. I encourage you to be thoughtful about who you choose to work with, and to not be discouraged if one (or two, or three, or ten) therapists can’t seem to help. Do not hesitate to reach out if you think we might be a good fit, and if I can’t help you, I am happy to provide a referal to someone who can. 

How long will I need to be in therapy?

The short answer is, it depends. Therapy is a highly individualized process, and you and I will work together to determine your specific needs. My goal is never to keep you as a client forever; rather, it is to help you transform your life and relationships. Some clients get what they need out of a few sessions, while others find that they benefit from ongoing support. 

How do I schedule with you?

I’ve tried to make scheduling as painless as possible! You are welcome to use my online scheduler, leave me a message on my chat bar, call, text, or email me. Please be advised that chat, text, and email are not secure and that confidentiality cannot be assured through these means. Additionally, these means are to be used for scheduling and logistical purposes only, not for therapy. You deserve the full attention of a real life person!

Phone: 512-980-3838
email: hayden@haydenmlindsey.com

Do you take my insurance?

I am considered an out-of-network provider by most insurance companies. You may choose to utilize your policy’s out-of-network benefits in order to be partially reimbursed. In this case, I am happy to provide the required documentation, called a “superbill” (not to be confused with Super Bill Bradley, the former Longhorn and all-pro defensive back). The best way to find out your benefits is to call the number on the back of your insurance card and ask about “outpatient out-of-network mental health benefits.”

A note of caution on using insurance: Insurance companies can and often do limit the number of sessions which are covered, and will also request records of our sessions together to monitor your progress. It can feel a bit like someone is in the room with us!

Additionally, if you choose to use insurance, I will be required to provide you with a mental health diagnosis (e.g. Major Depressive Disorder, Adjustment Disorder) to justify the “medical need” for therapy. This diagnosis may become part of your medical record. I believe everyone can benefit from therapy and that requiring a diagnosis presents a significant barrier to services. Just because you go to therapy does not mean you have an illness or a disorder that merits a permanent label. 

What else should I know?

My office is located at 2407 Marlton Dr. in the Deep Eddy Neighborhood of Austin near Mopac and Enfield. Typical sessions are 50 minutes long and payment is due at the time of service. I accept cash, check, and all major credit cards. In some cases, I find couples can benefit from longer sessions, particularly if they are in the brink of separating. We can discuss your needs over the phone or in our initial session. 

PLEASE BE ADVISED THAT I DO NOT OFFER CRISIS SERVICES. IF YOU ARE EXPERIENCING A MENTAL HEALTH EMERGENCY, DIAL 9-1-1, 512-472-HELP, OR GO TO YOUR NEAREST EMERGENCY ROOM.

Contact Me

Ask a question or book an appointment below. For emergencies call 911, dial 512-472-HELP, or visit your nearest hospital.