Hello! I’m Hayden
Licensed Professional Counselor Intern Supervised by Dena Roberts, PhD., LPC-S
My name is Hayden Lindsey, and I specialize in helping people master the art of creating great relationships. I understand that feelings of disconnection lie at the heart of most psychological symptoms, and many physical ones as well. Together, you and I will remove the roadblocks that keep you from the life and relationships you crave. I will help you recover the inherent capacity for connection that resides in all of us as well as discover new ways of relating to the world.
I view the work of therapy as equal parts recovery and discovery. I believe that no matter how withdrawn or isolated we might become, the spontaneous movement in all of us remains one towards connection and growth. As a result, I rely heavily on my clients’ hard-earned wisdom to guide our process.
At the same time, I also recognize the need we have to move beyond our current capacities, to expand our behavioral repertoires, and to “do” relationships differently. In support of this, I carefully balance nurture, guidance, and loving confrontation with a unique sense of humor and a deep appreciation for our shared humanness.
Although I cherish the therapeutic relationship, my greatest joy lies in empowering my clients to create moments of healing with important others in their everyday lives. Our sessions lay the groundwork, but the true transformation occurs when we are able to co-create different experiences with the ones we love.
What You Can Expect
- A professional who views you first and foremost as a person, not a case or diagnosis
- My personal commitment to understanding you on your terms
- A collaborative effort to name problems rather than my one-sided attempt to label them
- A gentle, resource-oriented approach to intense emotions
- Nurture, guidance, and loving firmness as needed
- Laughter! Because therapy can be fun, too
What You Won’t Get
- Diagnosed, labeled, judged, or otherwise pathologized
- An emphasis on personal history the expense of present experience
- Pressure to “release emotions”
- Focus on deficits and dysfunction
- My theories on “why you are the way you are”
What makes my approach different?
- Many systems of therapy are based on a medical model of disease. In contrast, I understand humans to be highly adaptive creatures that learn to survive in their environment. Rather than labeling unwanted behaviors as pathological, I see them as reflections of a survival style that has outlived its usefulness.
- Many therapies focus on problems that can take years to fully explore. My focus is on supporting your strengths, resiliency, and resources to quickly start freeing you from self-imposed limitations.
- Most talk therapies are all “in the head” and ignore the pivotal role the nervous system plays in the formation of identity. I recognize that the nervous system follows a predictable pattern of development that can be disrupted by early trauma. My approach is body-inclusive and promotes the nervous system re-regulation that is necessary for healthy self-image and relationships.
- Many therapies focus on the past in order to figure out “why you are the way you are.” I am more interested in helping you clarify how your personal and relational history affects your life and relationships in the here-and-now. I maintain a dual awareness of then and now that is anchored in the present moment.
- Most therapies treat the individual as the fundamental unit of analysis. I understand that we are relational beings, and that we do best when we live in authentic connectedness with others. I teach several “technologies of intimacy” to replace the distorted visions of closeness most of us absorb growing up.
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