Lost, but Not for Words Marcus and Maria, like many embattled couples, arrive in my office and head for opposite ends of the couch. Their simultaneous plop-down strikes me as the most coordinated effort they’ve mustered in months. In unison, each hugs the armrest as though they might be able to stretch the underlying structure… Continue reading Meditations on Loving and Losing
Author: Hayden
Vital Skill #3: Practice the Art of Appreciation
This post is part of my Vital Skills series, a collection of 10 non-negotiable practices we absolutely must hone if we are to craft the loving relationships we truly desire. The word ‘vital’ has been used here intentionally for its dual significance; these skills are not only essential, they are life-giving. The time and energy… Continue reading Vital Skill #3: Practice the Art of Appreciation
Four Reasons to Choose a Couples Intensive
[et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ admin_label=”section” _builder_version=”3.0.47″][et_pb_row admin_label=”row” _builder_version=”3.0.48″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″ _builder_version=”3.0.47″ parallax=”off” parallax_method=”on”][et_pb_text admin_label=”Text” _builder_version=”3.0.74″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat”] When most people think of couples therapy, they think of meeting weekly for an hour at a time. Increasingly, however, couples and professionals alike are recognizing the limitations of such a model. I have found that certain… Continue reading Four Reasons to Choose a Couples Intensive
Vital Skill #1: Develop Binocular Vision
This post is part of my Vital Skills series, a collection of 10 non-negotiable practices we absolutely must hone if we are to craft the loving relationships we truly desire. The word ‘vital’ has been used here intentionally for its dual significance; these skills are not only essential, they are life-giving. The time and energy… Continue reading Vital Skill #1: Develop Binocular Vision
Becoming Sensitive to the Sacred
Dearest Readers, Relationships are at once fundamental and transcendental, and one of the challenges for those of us who presume to study them is that we are constantly pulling focus in order to appreciate their essence at different levels. One minute we are zooming in to observe funny little brain molecules. We want to know… Continue reading Becoming Sensitive to the Sacred
Six Things to Know About Infidelity
The revelation of an infidelity is an intense experience for both the offending and the hurt partner. The aftermath is a period of overwhelming shock, confusion, pain, and uncertainty. Partners have tremendous difficulty making sense of their own hurt, much less understanding one other’s. Most of us simply do not have the life experience to… Continue reading Six Things to Know About Infidelity
How to Spot an Ambivalent Partner (Even If It’s You!)
It is normal to experience uncertainty about your relationship, particularly in the beginning. If, however, you are consistently on the fence about your partner, it will be impossible for your relationship to thrive. I refer to this state of ambivalence as “stable ambiguity,” and it’s precisely because it’s so stable that it often goes unnoticed.… Continue reading How to Spot an Ambivalent Partner (Even If It’s You!)