About Hayden

About Me

I am a Licensed Professional Counselor Intern with a deep passion for working with individuals, couples, and families. I hold a Masters of Science in Counseling from Southern Methodist University where I completed an additional concentration in Marriage and Family Therapy.

How I Work

I believe the spontaneous movement in all of us is one towards health, connection, and aliveness. No matter how wounded we might be, or how withdrawn and isolated we have become, we maintain an impulse to grow and heal. It is this impulse that brings people to therapy and provides the fuel for our work.

What You Can Expect:

  • A professional who views you first and foremost as a person, not a case or diagnosis
  • My personal commitment to understanding you on your terms
  • A collaborative effort to name problems rather than my one-sided attempt to label them
  • A gentle, resource-oriented approach to intense emotions
  • Nurture, guidance, and loving firmness as needed
  • Laughter! Because therapy can be fun, too

What You Won’t Get

  • Diagnosed, labeled, judged, or otherwise pathologized
  • An emphasis on personal history the expense of present experience
  • Pressure to “release emotions”
  • Focus on deficits and dysfunction
  • My theories on “why you are the way you are”

Specific Therapeutic Approaches

Relational Therapy

I am, first and foremost, a relational therapist. This means that I honor our inherent interconnectedness as humans born into relationships. Without a social, political, and familial context, none of us have personal histories. I understand that we are constantly being shaped — and misshaped — by our interactions with others.

What this means for you: Most people come to therapy because they are feeling bad inside. As a relational therapist, I acknowledge this self-experience, but I also see those unpleasant feelings as existing at the boundary of self and others. They are relational feelings as much as they are self-feelings. They often sound like questions: “Am I good enough?” “Does he approve?” “Did I disappoint her?” When the answers are negative, we feel bad inside. Together, you and I will examine the interactional patterns that create and re-create these feelings and find new ways to perform interactions differently.

Somatic Psychotherapies

Talk therapy has traditionally ignored the body’s relationship to emotional and psychological well-being. However, recent research on brain and nervous system function has revealed the enormous importance of the body’s regulatory capacities in supporting healthy self-image and the development of secure, functional relationships. Somatic psychotherapies hold that limiting beliefs can be accessed through body awareness and then transformed to expand the capacity for authenticity, vitality, and aliveness.

What this means for you: People come to therapy because they are in pain. Understanding that the body is the only “place” where unpleasant feelings can be made to feel better, I seek to help my clients feel grounded in their biological selves. Analyzing problems alone does not always promote this felt sense of security and can actually increase emotional and physiological dysregulation. I also understand the body to be a powerful resource to guide the therapeutic process, pointing the way towards healing.