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11 Resolutions for a Better Marriage in 2018


11 Resolutions for a Better Marriage in 2018 It’s common practice this time of year to make personal resolutions: lose weight; eat better; save more. But have you ever thought about sitting down with your partner and making resolutions for your relationship? Not only would you improve one of the most important aspects of your life, but you’d have some…

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An Endless Void: The Origins of Shame


For years, I talked to men predominantly about their experience of shame. I knew that shame was inherently isolating, and I believed if I “brought it out of the shadows” it would resolve automatically. This was not the case. Sharing experiences may decrease isolation, but it doesn’t necessarily help men disidentify from their shame. Tom may find comfort knowing that…

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Why Your Partner Brings Out Your Worst


Ever wonder why the person you love provokes the personal qualities you hate? Or why the people who ignite your passions are the same ones who ignite your temper? Or why the one you’ve promised your best seems to bring out your worst? It’s no secret that meaningful relationships trigger intense emotions, both positive and negative, but for many couples,…

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Facing Ambivalence


It is normal to experience uncertainty about your relationship, particularly in the beginning. If, however, you are consistently on the fence about your partner, it will be impossible for your relationship to thrive. I refer to this state of ambivalence as “stable ambiguity,” and it’s precisely because it’s so stable that it often goes unnoticed. I’ve seen couples parked in…

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Intro to Whole-Body Loving


For all their myriad struggles, most distressed couples actually have the same basic complaint: They feel differently about each other than they did when they first got together. The love and aliveness they used to share has been replaced with anger and resentment, numbness and emptiness. Along the way, they have often ignored red flags, talked themselves out of getting…

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